Bethany also asked after me last Friday. I told her what the problem was. "Still?" she said. She hasn't spoken to me this week. My anti-claque grows. Julie's willful disdain for me grows daily more obvious, but I won't say painfully so; in fact, to this old master of that affectation it is virtually heartening. Suffering is required to maintain such an attitude. Her misery is a comfort to me, as long as it's related to me; and as long as I'm not actively contributing to it I can suffer no remorse over it. And I'm not contributing to it. I have spoken to her more than once since Monday and have each time been met with--eventually--a grunted, barely audible monosyllable of indeterminate verbiage. This has served to lower my blood pressure somewhat (but not enough). I can't know that I am a cause of her behavior (I would not be as "happy" if I weren't), and I'm working hard to not believe it, because it's not a healthy stroke to my ego, attention though it might (or might not) be; but I will never know, because Julie would never tell me; behavior of this sort communicates its own inability to communicate all to clearly. If only she knew how well I knew her....
Unfortunately, her behavior towards me has fueled fantasies of her kindling interest in me. Don't let's start in on that again. My best attitude right now is disinterest, though at this point it must be feigned. Perhaps disinterest isn't quite the right word without "emotional" before it. I am not disinterested, feigned or otherwise, but to become emotionally involved is to hope that Julie actually cares about me. When I was acting towards her the way she is now acting towards me it was for attention. I don't know if she recognized it as such, but I think it best that, thouugh I recognize it, I don't acknowledge it. In the meantime I won't stop trying to talk to her. It's the best way to deny that acknowledgment.
Thursday, July 2, 2009
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
2 comments:
Hey there Dion,
Tough eh?
As far as I know, women don't feign uninterest. When a woman acts as if she doesn't want to talk, I think she means it.
But I guess you must be knowing better.
Tell me,when she behaves like that, what do you really feel? I feel we always know what the other person's vibes are trying to say.I'm sure you know the answer.
Love
Deboshree
I don't know better, Deboshree. I think her disinterest is genuine. What I feel when she behaves like that is anger and self-pity, mostly, I think--and maybe some satisfaction in having gotten some kind of reaction out of her, for better or for worse.
Post a Comment